Check Your Source
I recently finished watching season 5 of the Netflix show titled “The Crown”.
For those who don’t know, it is a dramatization depicting the British Royal Family.
I found it quite interesting once Princess Diana Spencer was introduced to the show, I couldn’t help but relate to her story.
Based on the depiction, she joined the Royal Family as a very young girl, with a troubled childhood, who had her hopes set on having a healthy marriage with Prince Charles and planning a life with him.
Throughout the show it was revealed that she was misunderstood, neglected, and emotionally abused by the entire Royal family and especially her husband Prince Charles, who, for the duration of their union was happily in love with another woman.
I related to Princess Diana, as I’m sure many others can, because I know how it feels to experience emotional neglect and abuse from people who claim to love and care about you.
After every episode I would pray and ask Holy Spirit, “what could Diana had done differently?”, in order to overcome the emotional wounds and trauma that she endured? “what can I do differently?”
The first thing that Holy Spirit responded with was “Don't tie yourself to someone else’s experience, because her story is not your portion.”
Halleluyah, Amen!
Second I was taught a very hard lesson to avoid trying to draw from empty wells (sources)
The fascinating thing about Diana’s story is that she was well known and adored by people all over the world, however all of that outpouring of love didn’t satisfy her desire to be loved by her husband and in-laws.
Why do some of us focus so much on who isn’t loving or appreciating us that we completely overlook or undervalue the supply of love and care that we are receiving from others?
I mean seriously we can be celebrated by strangers for our looks, talents, or skills but if our close friends and family don’t support us, it doesn’t seem to mean as much.
That kind of disappointment can often lead to seeds of bitterness or animosity being planted in our hearts and we also run the risk of taking for granted the very people who are pouring into us what we need.
Well today the Holy Spirit is encouraging Yah’s people to check our sources!!!
Where are we drawing from?
Empty wells or overflowing ones?
Clean sources or contaminated ones?
Are we focusing more on who isn’t showing us love, and trying to figure why they aren’t?
Or are we surrounding ourselves with people who are expressing love and care to us and taking the time to reciprocate back to them?
Yah knows that it hurts to love people who don’t love you back, especially when you see them giving love to others that you wish they would share with you.
Christ experienced this during His time on earth, and still to this day.
He literally gave His own life in order to prove His great love for mankind, yet still so many people reject Him and give their love and devotion to other people and things that would never make that kind of sacrifice for them.
We can find comfort in fellowshipping in the suffering of Yahshua our Savior,
knowing that He loves us with an unconditional and faithful love
and also by surrounding ourselves with people (sources) who want to invest in us the way we need in order for us to thrive, grow, and flourish.
It is wise for us to separate ourselves from sources that simply drain us or pour toxins into our souls.
Of course not all pain is avoidable however, it is possible to avoid environments that are toxic and unhealthy.
The Ruah of Yah is saying today, Stop fighting for people to love you, Stop striving to win the affections of people.
Stop blaming yourself for why people’s hearts are cold towards you
Know that emotionally healthy people know how to love people and emotionally unhealthy people don’t.
I know that it’s easier said than done but we must reject those sources that reject us and receive the sources that receive us.
ONLY THE LOVE OF CHRIST CAN TRANSFORM A PERSON’S HEART
And people won’t treat you better than they treat their savior, Yashua, and if they do, you might just be an idol!!!
Imagine if Princess Diana had stopped telling her sad story in hopes of gaining the sympathy of outsiders. Imagine if she took off the victim’s mindset and began to celebrate the fact that she had a purpose that was bigger than a man or group of people who were unwilling/unable to recognize her value in the earth.
I don’t know if things would have ended differently for her, but I do believe that they can and WILL end differently for us!
Those of us who choose to draw from Yahshua, our supply of love, compassion, help, support, grace, favor, blessing, affirmation, and mercy.
He is the well that NEVER runs dry!!! HALLELUYAH!
Now before I end this post I want to provide some scripture to use in order to discern if there is an unhealthy source in your life that you are drawing from.
The first scripture comes from Galatians 5:22-26
“but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”
Any source in your life that is not producing the Fruit of the Spirit, is not a source that is in alignment with the Holy Spirit but the flesh. Any source that is conceited, provoking, and envious is toxic. DETACH!
The Bible says that a tree is called according to it’s fruit, so if the fruit is rotten, it’s a rotten tree, CUT IT!
The next scripture comes from 1 John 3: 16-19
“By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of Yah abide in him? My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. And by this we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him.”
Anyone who says with their words that they love you but their actions do not reflect that, is a liar! DETACH!
Also before people try to deceive Yah’s people by trying to redefine and misinterpret what love is, let’s look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love suffers long and is KIND; love does NOT ENVY; love does not parade ITSELF, is NOT puffed up, does not behave RUDELY, does not seek its own, is not PROVOKED, thinks NO EVIL; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the TRUTH; bears ALL THINGS, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Compare the conduct of the source to the truth written in Yah’s word.
The last thing I want to add is regarding our children, the next generation and how we need to protect them from the toxic sources that we may have been exposed to. Childhood wounds take years to heal and often times require deliverance if left unattended for too long. Childhood traumas impact people well into adulthood. So let’s be vigilant about guarding and protecting our children from fake love and toxic sources. Let’s be sure that our children are raised knowing the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy ones.
Let’s teach our children how to express their emotions in healthy ways so that when they become adults they are able to function in relationships of all capacities without acting from a place of unresolved hurts.
This starts by us talking to our children REGULARLY and providing them with a safe space to communicate and be expressive even if we don’t agree with what they are saying or it makes us a bit uncomfortable.
Let’s war against social media having more participation in teaching our kids than we do.
Let’s show them healthy examples of friendships, respectful interactions between men and women, successful conflict resolution, unified family dynamics, healthy confrontations. positive business practices and professionalism, and most of all how to live a life truly surrendered and submitted to Yah’s word and Spirit. And when people let them down teach them that they are accepted and loved by The Most High God through His Son, Yahshua ha’Mashiah!